Speaking as a White Male Oppressor (with a Black wife and two children), you seem well-balanced. You have a chip on each shoulder.

Why should all white (males) take the blame for centuries of oppression? I notice you singularly failed to put any blame on the (Black African) slave traders who stole people to sell to the slave ships.

My wife and I chose each other freely, for our personal reasons (maybe we loved each other, and still do after 36 years of marriage, if you can conceive of that in your blinkered worldview).

As for your accusation that somebody who points out your bigoted shallowness is fragile, I echo his response, screw your guilt, screw your shame. We are not fragile, we are proud of who we are, proud of our wives and proud of our children.